Do you struggle with shifting the monkey, taking on responsibilities, obligations, and problems that don’t belong to you? According to Todd Whitaker in his book, Shifting the Monkey, you need to first identify the monkey by asking 3 questions: where is the monkey, where should it be, and how do I shift it where it belongs? So I wonder, how successful are you at “shifting the monkey”? Share your stories in the comment section below.
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Last week, I shared a review of a book and then followed that up later in the week by asking you share the best books you’ve read this year so far. This week, I shared some of the recurring leadership lessons I’ve been reminded of in 2016, so of course I am going to ask you to share the most valuable lessons on leadership you’ve learned this year! Please share in the comment box below.
If you are reading this, you probably read other things on leadership as well. I am always trying to grow my library, and much of what I put in my library comes by way of recommendation from others (thanks, Kel, for suggesting “Leadership Excellence” by Pat Williams!). I would love to hear the best book on leadership you’ve read this year. Please share in the comment section below.
I learned a lot about work from my dad, lessons about how and why to do it well. I’ve shared some of those lessons in the last couple of weeks, and I will probably share more in the future, but I would love to hear from you. What has been one of the most valuable lessons about work that you have learned?
Early in my school leadership experience, I had a very difficult conversation with my boss – difficult because I was receiving feedback that I thought was unfair and untrue, in a way that was harsh and hurtful. My dad helped me navigate that conversation well, and I learned from the experience (including, learning how to grow from feedback that I disagree with, as well as learning to see how I contribute to the issue even when the approach makes me instinctively become defensive). How about you? Share an experience, positive or negative, in which you received feedback that helped you grow.
Carol Dweck, in Mindset, describes two different kinds of mindsets – fixed and growth – and shows how they can directly affect how you manage life circumstances. So I wonder, what kind of mindset do you have? I think that when I was younger, my mindset was more fixed than growth-oriented, but I have (thankfully) changed much over the years, and now I believe I work at maintaining a growth mindset. The end result has been continued growth and a healthy response to challenge. How about you? What kind of mindset do you have, and how do you know?